These Are the 13 Best Sex Toys for Couples, According to a Sexologist

Experience heart-pounding pleasure with this small but powerful toy. Unlike a vibrator, it uses gentle suction and air pulses to stimulate the clitoris (not vibrations). There are 10 different intensity levels to choose from, allowing you to choose which sensations you’d like to experience. Reviewers say it delivers vivid orgasms quickly, and because it’s 100-percent waterproof, it can be used in the shower or bath and is incredibly easy to clean.

Feel like incorporating a high-tech toy into your routine? “Toys specifically designed for couples, like the We-Vibe Chorus are perfect because they offer stimulation for both you and your partner,” Dr. O’Reilly says. “It can provide G-Spot, clitoral, and shaft stimulation. The Chorus is also adjustable, features touch-sensitive receptors, and offers custom vibrations through the We-Vibe app.”

Hands-free toys are amazing if you don’t want to be distracted by holding onto something during sex. This toy by Lelo can be used as an internal and external vibrator during foreplay, but can also be worn during penetrative play. The small arm can be inserted into the vagina, holding the vibrating part over the clitoris and delivering vibrations to both areas. If your partner has a penis, they’ll feel the vibrations while entering you, too. Consider it double the fun.

Is it a lipstick or a vibe? When it comes to the all-new Private Pleasure Vibe from plusOne, only you and your partner will know the answer. This vibrator is an easy way to add some excitement to your routine, because it’s powerful yet discreet (so it doesn’t get in the way). The Private Pleasure Vibe has 10 vibration modes with a whisper-quiet motor, so you can experience maximum pleasure; it also comes in three different colors with a sleek privacy cover, so it can travel with you or be stored incognito at home. And it’s fully waterproof, making it easy to clean and perfect for use in the shower or bath.*

Finding a position to hold a vibrator between yourself and your partner can be annoying and cumbersome. This unique-shaped toy from Dame uses two silicone arms that gently hug the labia, so the vibrator remains in place for clitoral stimulation. This set comes with the toy and a wedge pillow, which helps you reach new angles and positions with ease.

There are several intriguing things about this bendable vibrator, but we’ll start with what makes it amazing for couples: The vibrations can be controlled from afar by an app. That means you can add some spice to mutual play by giving your partner complete control of the toy’s vibration patterns and speeds. This is especially fun in long-distance relationships — your partner can change the settings from miles apart.

For solo play, there are buttons to easily control the intensity and patterns of Poco, and it could easily be held against a clitoris, labia, or penis during penetrative sex, to increase sensations. It bends in two different spots, so the configurations allow for easy reach, no matter your positioning.

If you and your partner prefer a toy that looks and feels luxe, this golden bullet vibrator is the perfect one to incorporate. Despite being the size of a tube of lipstick, this tiny treasure delivers intense vibrations wherever you want them. It’s also completely waterproof, so it can even be used in the shower or tub without worry.

Does the idea of giving up control get you excited? Sometimes the thought of not knowing what’s coming next can be just as arousing as crawling into bed with your special someone. This wearable vibrator slips inside underwear to keep it in place for hands-free play, wherever you are. You can use the wireless controller yourself to change the vibration intensity and pattern, or you can hand it to your partner for a ride that’s full of surprises.

We’re qualifying these candles as toys because they can actually be used during play (not just as ambience). As the wax melts, it turns into a sumptuous massage oil that’s safe for the body. Sensual touch can be a great form of foreplay, but even if you don’t choose to use these candles for massages, you can still light them to set the mood.

If your partner has a penis, the Arcwave can introduce them to a whole new world. (It’s also great for those who experience pain with friction or squeezing sensations.) “It can help you to learn to enjoy pleasure beyond the stroking or in-and-out motion,” Dr. O’Reilly says. This cylinder-shaped toy wraps around the penis seamlessly, applying constant, even pressure all over. It can be rotated or used in a stroking motion — or do both at the same time, for an intense effect.

If you’re looking for a hardy little toy that’ll last you a lifetime, this classic wand vibrator does the trick. It’s a little smaller than the original model, but has a long handle so you can easily grip it and control the direction of thesilicone head. The broad end sends vibrations to a larger surface area, making it fun for foreplay or for those who don’t enjoy direct clitoral stimulation.

Instead of vibrations, the Womanizer stimulates the area around the clitoris with pulsating air. “They provide indirect stimulation around the head of the clitoris externally, and you can adjust the intensity levels from the sensual to the powerful according to your liking,” Dr. O’Reilly says. This external-only tool is a treat for those who experience discomfort with penetration.

This is a toy that can hide in plain sight; designed as a necklace, this bullet-style vibrator is an elegant yet powerful accessory. Made for external stimulation only, this sleek metal vibrator can deliver bold, targeted vibrations wherever you or your partner would like. Wear it out on date night while thinking about all the ways you can use it later, creating ~anticipation~.