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15 Expert- and User-Approved Sex Accessories

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Graphic by Giovanna Pineda/KCM

Sex toys shouldn’t be scary.

Let’s face it: The world of sex toys can be overwhelming and intimidating. (If you’ve ever stared down a towering wall of multicolored boxes and wild product names at an erotic boutique, you know what we’re talking about.) There are thousands of choices out there, and you somehow have to find the one that’s going to suit your preferences and lifestyle — without trying it out ahead of time.

Since not all toys are created equal, we found experts to weigh in on the best pleasure accessories. Whether you’re looking for a toy to use by yourself or interested in incorporating one during sex with a partner this Valentine’s Day, we’ve got you covered. We scoured the web for the best sex toys for women, including vibrators and beyond, for both beginners and experienced users. Rated by sex therapists and customers, there isn’t a displeasing gadget in this bunch.

Explore these playthings and try something new: You never know, you may find something that enhances your sex life in a way you weren’t expecting. (Our favorite kind of revelation.) Shopping for a shared experience? Try the best sex toys for couples.

For more lovable finds, shop our complete Valentine’s Day Gift Guide.

Best Sex Toys for Women

Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

LoveHoney

No, this isn’t partnered oral sex, but it might be the next best thing. The Womanizer has a small silicone tip that creates a seal around the clitoris, gently creating a suction and pulsating sensation. It’s meant to recreate the sensation of someone performing oral sex by using air to gently suck and push on the area inside the silicone tip. Users and sex therapists agree it’s a pretty amazing toy, but if that’s not enough proof for you, check this out: It was actually found to effectively treat women with orgasmic difficulty in a case study — the first sex toy to ever do so.

$79 at Lovehoney

plusOne Bullet Vibrator

Amazon

The form and function of this toy makes it a classic for a reason: It works. Despite its small size, this bullet vibrator delivers intense vibrations wherever you’d like them. Trail it gently along your legs or arms to raise goosebumps, or use it on your nipples, clitoris, or labia if you prefer something more direct.*

$12 at Amazon

Rose Sex Toy

Amazon

Lean into the spirit of Valentine’s Day with a rose-shaped vibrator, which has nine powerful vibrating modes you can adjust to your preferred speed and power, and a suction tip to simulate oral sex. They say every rose has its thorn, but this one definitely does not.

$22 at Amazon

Lelo Soraya 2

Lelo

Consider this a modern upgrade from the classic rabbit-style vibrator. Lelo created the Soraya 2 to be a sleek, sophisticated toy that looks just as great as it feels. The body of the toy is made of soft silicone with two main components: a small, short nub for targeted stimulation, and a longer, wider shaft for internal stimulation. A hole at the back of the toy serves as a handle for easy holding, and the buttons for adjusting vibration speed, intensity, and pattern are located on the top of the loop so you can easily change the settings. The toy won an iF Design Award in 2020 for its impeccable design and packaging.

$183 at Lelo

maude Vibe

maude

This old saying applies to vibrators, too: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Similar to a bullet-style vibe, this one from maude fits easily in your hand and delivers precise vibrations wherever you or your partner wants them. Made from body-safe silicone that’s both flexible and easy to clean after use, it’s a great toy for those looking to start their sexual device journey.

$49 at maude

Vibratex Cordless Magic Wand

Bbotique

Everyone’s favorite magic wand — you might remember it from an episode of Sex and the City now comes in a rechargeable cordless version. This is one of the most famous sex toys, and deservedly so: It delivers targeted, strong vibrations wherever you place it, pretty much guaranteeing an orgasm. It’s rather large for a toy, but you can easily hold onto it without having to contort your body to move it wherever you’d like. (Note that unlike many contemporary toys, this one isn’t waterproof, as only the head is covered in silicone.) According to sex expert JoEllen Notte, the Magic Wand may be a great choice for those struggling to reach orgasm because of medications they’re on. “Maybe the stimulation you’re used to isn’t working, but maybe stimulating a different area would,” she says. “Or maybe the whole area needs to be stimulated all at once, by something extremely strong.”

$90 at Amazon

Playboy Pleasure Rev Me Up Vibrator

Lovers

Don’t be confused by all the bends and curves on this toy — it’s surprisingly easy to use. The knob on top acts like a handle you can rest between your fingers, and you can use the curved portion (which vibrates) internally for G-spot stimulation or externally for clitoral stimulation.

$85 at Lovers

MysteryVibe Tenuto Mini

MysteryVibe

Get more bang for your buck, perhaps literally, with this flexible vibrator. It’s designed to sit on a person’s penis (either at the base or tip) and deliver vibrations from all angles. For those who have trouble getting or staying erect, it can help with both. Plus, if having partnered sex, it can be worn at the base of the penis to stimulate the clitoris and labia during penetrative sex, sending good vibes all around.

$174 at MysteryVibe

Lovehoney Satisfy Me Curve Silicone Dildo

LoveHoney

For those who enjoy and maybe prefer penetration with a toy, this flexible dildo is a great option. The dual-sided design allows for either end to be inserted, one being more slender than the other. A slightly curved structure helps either end of the dildo target the G-spot, and it’s made of flexible silicone that bends easily if you need it to go a little further in one direction or another. The silicone is soft to the touch and can be used with a water-based lubricant, like this one from maude.

$25 at Lovehoney

Bloomi Indulge Double-Sided Vibrator

Bloomi

Get the best of both worlds with Bloomi’s Indulge, which vibrates on one end and not on the other, so you can explore what feels best for you. It’s made with medical-grade silicone (which can be recycled, as long as you find the appropriate recycling services near you), and can be used with water-based lubricant for vaginal and anal use, so you don’t have to choose between G-spot and P-spot pleasure.

$60 at Bloomi

Dame Dip

Dame

Large, brightly colored, and phallic-shaped sex toys can often feel intimidating. Starting with something small and effective — like the Dip from woman-founded company Dame — is a great way to begin using sex toys if you haven’t before. The approachable and affordable design has a ridged tip for added pleasure, five intensities to choose from, and gets rave reviews.

$35 at Dame

Pulse Lubrication Warmer

Pulse

The sensation of touch is one of the biggest elements of intimacy, but nothing takes you out of the moment quite like the feel of unexpectedly cold lubricant. Pulse solved this issue with their warming device, which hygienically dispenses warm lube to match a comfortable body-compatible temperature. Its design is also chic enough to display on your nightstand, and the machine emits a soft, glowing light to help set the mood.

$149 at Pulse

Lioness Vibrator 2.0

Lioness

Looking to really dig into what gets you hot and bothered? This vibrator by Lioness has built-in sensors that collect biofeedback to track your arousal levels in real time, when you begin to orgasm, and how long you orgasm. After you’ve finished using the vibrator, you’ll be able to go into an app and see how and when you climaxed, allowing you to better understand your body and your preferences and put that knowledge to good use, whether alone or with a partner.

$229 at Lioness

Adjustable Bed Wedge Pillow

Amazon

While this isn’t technically a sex-specific toy, it can help enhance your experience with a partner. This wedge can be used in a multitude of ways, either as a support while a partner pleasures you, to elevate your legs and hips to find a new position, as back support during sex or masturbation, under your hips to lift you a bit to better fit with your partner, and many, many other ways. Or, if you’d like, it’s also a great way to read in bed with some extra back support! We’ll let you decide how to employ it.

$53 at Amazon

Maude Band

Maude

For those who are looking to try something new in the bedroom, a vibrating ring is a good place to start. This one is from Katie Couric Media-favorite maude, a woman-owned sexual-wellness company. It’s made of body-safe silicone that’s both flexible and easy to clean after use, free of latex and phthalates, and even comes in its own canvas bag for storage. Simply place the ring over a penis, ensure it fits comfortably, and turn it on so you and the wearer can feel the good vibrations. Unfortunately it’s currently out of stock, but we’re hoping it comes back soon.

$52 at Maude

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