From Janine Driver, body language expert and author of “You Can’t Lie to Me.”
1. Are you calling me a liar?
Asking a question with a question is a classic stalling technique that deceptive people use. This liar in your life is trying to give herself a couple seconds to decide if she is going to tell you the truth or lie – and if she is going to lie, she’s thinking of what to tell you.
2. What kind of person do you think I am?
The guy who says this line is avoiding answering your direct question about an incident and he is trying to make YOU feel guilty in the process. This aggressive response is called “gaslighting,” which is when you confront someone and they get aggressive and make you feel like the fool.
3. I knew this was going to happen!
Without realizing it, this master manipulator in your life, just confessed! Stand by… Because seconds later your so-called BFF will turn your confrontation around and call you jealous or insane or paranoid!
4. I’d have to be stupid to do something like that!
Enough said?… Case closed! This person is stupid!
We tell people who we are, not who we are not. A typical honest person will say, “I am an honest person” or “I’m telling you the truth!” Whereas a liar might say something like President Richard Nixon, “I am not a crook!” The great poet Mia Angelo says that people tell you who they are, all you have to do is listen!
5. I know you’re going to think I’m making this up, BUT… (Liars, we’re watching you big “Buts!”)
Ignore the “but!” What’s important is what comes in front of the “but!” This liar literally said the words, “I am making this up.” So when your significant other says, “I know you think I am cheating on you, but…” it’s time to dust off your online dating profile because your sneaky partner is either cheating or thinking about cheating.
6. I would never do that to you!
This isn’t past tense. This isn’t the same as a “No. I didn’t cheat on you.” or “No. I didn’t take your money.” This cleaver fibber is giving YOU the illusion that he’s answering your question, but he’s not! Listen carefully!
7. Just ask my friends they’ll tell you I wouldn’t do that!
Truthful people “convey” information, while liars will try to “convince” us of information.
This little verbal stunt above is called, “character testimony.” Liars often call in third-party people to back up their lies in hopes that we will actually not call those people! Go ahead and call their bluff and call their friends!